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My Journey with Body Image

8/1/2019

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​I have a confession to make, I will be turning 30 next month and am just now really understanding why body image is so important. 
​I have had to work very hard to learn about, cultivate, and practice healthy body image. I honestly didn’t even know what body image was and how it pertained to health until my master’s program in school. When I was young, I remember hearing a lot about self-esteem. And feeling like I had none of it. I was super hard on myself, talked down to myself, and NEVER had positive inner dialogue that I can remember.
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There were things I hated about my body and would obsess about. I found myself complaining about them to anyone who would listen. The thing was, I wanted to be the one to tear myself down before someone else did. In my head, it would be less hurtful if it happened that way. Funny thing is, I don’t think anyone would have ever noticed those things if I had never brought them up. 
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Here I am all dressed for senior prom. But I don't remember much of that day. I remember feeling like I wasn't pretty because my hair wasn't long and in a pretty up do (the style back then). I also went against the grain and wore a sleek form fitting dress instead of the very popular giant Cinderella gowns.  I was so consumed about trying to look like everyone else, that I didn't stop to enjoy the day and enjoy who I really was!
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Myself in 9th grade. I would never smile with my teeth showing because I hated my gappy teeth and then hated my braces after that. I hid behind hair-do's that I would constantly change because I thought that would make me feel better.
I could only look back to how I used to look and wish my body hadn’t changed.
So then, there I was an adult, never having a good thing to say about my body, and still giving all my attention to the things I didn’t like about myself, and BAM! I became a mom. And oh boy, did that throw my whole world through a loop! Your entire body changes. A lot of people will tell you how amazing your body is for carrying a child, but it went in one ear and out the other for me. I could only see the changes as negative things. I could only look back to how I used to look and wish my body hadn’t changed.
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I went through this two more times within 4 years. With each pregnancy and birth, my body kept changing further from what I thought I wanted my body to look like. And I will be the first to admit, it took away from the experience. I was almost bitter about things and I’m sure I sounded very whiny and negative about my body. I was so focused on how I looked. Not how I felt. Not what I could do. Not what was going on around me. Just my outer shell. 
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​Little did I know, I was struggling with my body because of my thoughts, not because of what I was doing with my body or what happened to my body. My body wasn’t okay because my brain wasn’t okay. In my undergrad program I learned how self-esteem and self-efficacy effect health. I learned mindfulness techniques that had me focus on the here and now; not the body I once had, and not the body I still wanted to have, but the body I was in at that moment. With a lot of practice, I very slowly and gradually shifted my focus to more positive thoughts about myself. It first started with small victories like lifting x amount of weight or passing a really hard class.
My body wasn’t okay because my brain wasn’t okay.
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Amazing things happen when you start adding up your victories; you start gaining momentum. You focus less on all the many, many failures you might have and start living for the good moments. Counting victories turn into gratitude. And gratitude smothers doubt, negativity, and even guilt.

And when I say it’s slow moving and the change is slight, it really is. I didn’t just wake up and love who I was. The shift was almost undetectable for a while. But the growth and change were there and were gaining dominance in my mind. As my personal body image became more and more positive, I realized what a ripple effect it had on so many other aspects of my life.
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Another main reason I become more in tune to my inner thoughts about myself and my outer actions and words was that I had a daughter. I didn’t want my insecurities effect how she saw herself. I wanted so badly to be a positive role model for her. And having a reason bigger than myself gave me an even bigger drive to see myself in a more positive way. I found myself diving deeper into body image in school and for an assignment, I was to give a workshop to adult women on body image. This one tiny assignment became a catalyst for my future direction and ignited my drive to continue teaching women about how they see themselves. 

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​I’ve now given a version of this positive body image workshop to over 100 women. I gain more momentum with each person I see that leaves the class standing taller than when she came in. I feel as though I gain more than anyone else. I learn so much from other women. I hear how we all struggle with certain things, but I also hear how someone got over their insecurities and that has been a fantastic example for myself and given me even more drive to strive to love who I am, flaws and all!

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Lisa Bailey link
8/1/2019 03:40:21 pm

I loved your article. I related to so much. I've been in a similar journey, releasing emotional weight that facilitated releasing physical weight.

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